I’ve been a Phoenix Wedding DJ & Master of Ceremonies long enough to know that the vendors you hire can make or break your wedding experience. This is especially true when it comes to your wedding DJ. As the sole entertainment provider for your big day, a good DJ is worth their weight in gold. They can recommend other trusted vendors, keep your dance floor full, offer advice on wedding reception timelines, and make sure that all the events start and end on time.
To find this one-in-a-million DJ, you have to know what questions to ask a prospective DJ. The hiring process is important when it comes to choosing the best DJ for you and your wedding. But that’s only half the battle. Once you hire your wedding DJ, it’s up to you to let them know exactly what you want. They could be the best DJ in the world, but that won’t matter unless you tell them what your ideal wedding DJ looks like.
Do you want to get the most out of your wedding DJ? Do you want a playlist selected with you in mind? Let your DJ know! Odds are, they’re not a mind reader, and you don’t want your wedding to be a guessing game.
So here are some things you can do that I know have helped me create the perfect wedding experience for other couples:
1. Remember the DJ works for you
You hired them, so let them work for you. Be upfront about your expectations. If there’s no room for using independent judgment, let them know. Don’t be mean, but be direct, clear, and concise. Don’t be afraid to put it in writing. Any DJ who doesn’t have your best interests in mind will bow out right then and there, freeing you up to find the right DJ. Odds are, you’re going to be spending a lot of money on this event, so there’s no reason not to expect perfection—or at least as close to perfection as possible.
2. Don’t be afraid to get nit-picky
If they can’t swear, let them know. If you want them to swear in every sentence, let them know that too. If you have a serious problem with the word “moist,” tell them that they cannot—under any circumstances—tell the guest to go enjoy “moist” wedding cake. It’s easy to work with specifics, and the DJ won’t be trying to figure out what they can and cannot do.
If there’s a surefire way to ensure that your wedding reflects your wishes, it’s to be very specific when it comes to the guy who will be talking to all of your guests. No matter how small the pet peeve, it’s always best to let your DJ know—and if they’re unhappy with these limitations, then they’re not the DJ for you.
3. Let them know how to handle requests
Your DJ will be approached by guests with a variety of different song requests. That’s just the way it is. Luckily, since it’s YOUR wedding and YOUR DJ, you’ll be able to decide how the situation is handled. Before the big day, tell your wedding DJ if they should accept song requests or not. Tell them if they can accept requests so long as the song is not on the DO NOT playlist. Or if there’s simply a certain genre or artist that can’t be played no matter what.
4. Be very specific about your MUST playlist and your DO NOT playlist
If you really don’t want the “Macarena”, you have to let your DJ know. Odds are one of the guests will ask for it. Your wedding DJ won’t know what to avoid unless you tell them. I know that we all have songs that we absolutely cannot stand, and the last place you’re going to want to hear them is your wedding. The DO NOT playlist is vital, because there’s always that one friend who tries to get the DJ to play a song they know you despise. Nip that in the bud by adding it to the DO NOT playlist.
The same goes for a MUST playlist. If there’s something you can’t live without, email your DJ and let them know. Especially if the song needs to be played at a certain time or for a certain event. Coordinating with your DJ is key when it comes to ensuring that your wedding and reception go off without a hitch.
5. Let them get to know you
If you’re giving your DJ the freedom to choose songs for you, help them get to know you! The same goes for when they act as MC. If you want your wedding to lean towards fun, or elegant, or romantic, they need to know so they can act accordingly. The more they know you as a couple, the more successful your DJ will be in personalizing your wedding.